Read the scenarios in the table below. Each one is an unrealistic expectation for the child’s behavior. In the space provided, write what you think a staff member should say that reflects realistic expectations. After rewriting realistic expectations you’re encouraged to share your work with your trainer, coach, or administrator.

Read the scenarios in the table below. Each one is an unrealistic expectation for the child’s behavior. In the space provided, write what you think a staff member should say that reflects realistic expectations.

1. Zane should not have accidents in the program. He is 5 years old, so he should know when he has to go and just take care of it.
   Zane is still young, and accidents will happen. He might not realize that he doesn’t need to ask permission to go. He might be cautious and nervous about the school-age program.

    
2. His mom was deployed for two months, but she has been back for a while now. I can’t believe he still cries when his mom drops him off. 
   He has a strong attachment with his mom and is going through some separation anxiety.

    
3. She never stops moving! She is wearing me out. She needs to learn to sit still.
   She has an active or feisty temperament and needs lots of stimulation. Let’s think of ways to help her stay active.

    
4. Those three kids are inseparable. They play the same things every day and have started excluding kids. They need to stop being so exclusive.
   They have developed a strong friendship, but we could start focusing on friendship for all children.

    
5. She is getting so bossy. She orders me around all day.
   She is learning to assert herself and has great language skills.